Why Does God Allow “Bad” Things To Happen To Me?

Do you really want to know why God allows and does things? Special wisdom about God’s ways is only given when we meet specific requirements. This is not a common or natural thing, because wisdom is seeing things from God’s perspective. So to understand why God does things or allows things we must have supernatural discernment. It is a discipline that is developed in connection with various factors of spiritual growth.

Let’s look at a number of examples.

Psalm 25:9 (NKJ) states: “The humble He guides in justice, and the humble He teaches His way.”

To those who give up their rights over all things and accept His will in everything will learn why…

John 15:14-15 (NKJ) adds: “You are My friends if you do whatever I command you. No longer do I call you servants, for a servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all things that I heard from My Father I have made known to you.”

To those Christians who obey God’s commandments, Jesus reveals why…

Isaiah 55:8-9 says, “For My thoughts are not your thoughts, nor are your ways My ways,” says the LORD. “For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are My ways higher than your ways, and My thoughts than your thoughts.”

To learn why, we must consider the opposite of what is normal or natural to us…

Romans 8:28 promises: “And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.”

To those who really love God, eventually the answer to why will come …

1 Corinthians 2:14-16 explains, “But the natural man does not receive the things of the Spirit of God, for they are foolishness to him; nor can he know them, because they are spiritually discerned. But he who is spiritual judges all things, yet he himself is rightly judged by no one. For ‘who has known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct Him?’ But we have the mind of Christ.”

Those who want to know why must develop spiritual discernment.”

The way to develop discernment and have the ability to answer the question “why” is by asking yourself hard questions. As Psalm 25:9 said the, “humble He teaches His way.”

So take the situation that is greatly bothering you and ask yourself, “How can God, or is God using this situation to produce humility in me? You must always remember God hates pride.

Read Job and you will find a godly man who stood spiritually taller than everyone. But, this did not mean he was without sin. He dared to angrily question God on why He killed his children, bankrupted him, and caused him to be diseased. Read the last few chapters and you will find God shutting Job’s mouth!

For example, Then Job answered the LORD and said: “I know that You can do everything, and that no purpose of Yours can be withheld from You. You asked, ‘Who is this who hides counsel without knowledge?’ Therefore I have uttered what I did not understand, things too wonderful for me, which I did not know. Listen, please, and let me speak; you said, ‘I will question you, and you shall answer Me.’ “I have heard of You by the hearing of the ear, but now my eye sees You. Therefore I abhor myself, and repent in dust and ashes.” Job 42:1-6

True humility is so basic in achieving God’s purpose for our lives, that he tells us to humble ourselves, if we do not, God will humble us the hard way.

Read the story and see the heartbreaks of David. He was humbled through all kinds of disasters and problems to make him an effective king of Israel. That is why it is necessary to ask yourself in every situation, “How does this humble me?”

Next, deal with your heart and soul. You need to really seek to answer the question, “What character traits is God chiseling into me through this circumstance?” If I respond “His way” will I actually learn patience? Gratefulness? Forgiveness? How about endurance? You get the picture. Remember Romans 8 says: “And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, … to be conformed to the image of His Son, …”

Do you still want to know “why God?”

If so the next self examining question will be hard for you to face. Can you ask yourself, “Is God correcting and disciplining me for living wrong?” God has established clear cause and effect rules in the natural and supernatural worlds. For example, the Fifth Commandment of the Ten Commandments says in Ephesians 6:2-3 “Honor your father and mother,” which is the first commandment with promise: that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth.”

If you disrespect your parents or have done so in the past the promise here is plain, things will not go well for you.

Another example comes from Proverbs 17:13, “Whoever rewards evil for good, evil will not depart from his house.”

And also realize this, God will discipline those that He loves, read Hebrews 12:6 (NLT),For the LORD disciplines those he loves, and he punishes each one he accepts as his child.”

The struggle with “why God?” can be answered as you are starting to see , but not without great soul searching and repentance on our part.

Can you continue with me to the final answers? Try. Did you ever consider that God is training you for future leadership? Read the story of Joseph in the book of Genesis (chapters 30-50). This young man suffered incredible hurt from his own family. Slavery and false imprisonment were handed to him by God. This was God’s school of preparation to became the second highest ruler of Egypt to save his family years later from famine and starvation.

Also, he learned in prison how criminals think and brought his brothers to repentance using this knowledge. Peter even tells us in 1 Peter 4:12-14 that suffering is normal for Christians to give us God’s glory and allow the Spirit to rest upon us.

1 Peter 4:12-19 (NLT)
Dear friends, don’t be surprised at the fiery trials you are going through, as if something strange were happening to you. 13  Instead, be very glad—for these trials make you partners with Christ in his suffering, so that you will have the wonderful joy of seeing his glory when it is revealed to all the world. 14  So be happy when you are insulted for being a Christian, for then the glorious Spirit of God rests upon you.

Finally, did it ever occur to you that the circumstance you have suffered under could be happening because of the sins of others.

Remember, we all are suffering death and living in a fallen world because Adam and Eve sinned. This is reality, whether we like it or not. Whether you think it is fair or not, reality demands that you do not have control over where and to whom you are born, what nation you are from, and so on.

For example, if you were born in Nazi Germany in 1944 you would have been under a terrible destruction as Hitler was defeated and Germany crushed. Many babies died!

Did you know that when David was king in Israel he suffered from a three year famine and when he asked God “why?” God said in 2 Samuel 21:1, “It is because of Saul and his bloodthirsty house, because he killed the Gibeonites.” David quickly made restitution to these people and God supernaturally stopped the famine.

The “why” was from the past wicked king of Israel, but God acted in punishment years later.

Faith or trust in the Lord God means to believe in God’s integrity and goodness, in spite of the circumstances around you. Always believe and love God as a wise daddy who will allow many unexplained things to happen in our lives to test the genuineness of our faith.

Read 1 Peter 1:5-7 (NLT).And through your faith, God is protecting you by his power until you receive this salvation, which is ready to be revealed on the last day for all to see. 6  So be truly glad. There is wonderful joy ahead, even though you have to endure many trials for a little while. 7  These trials will show that your faith is genuine. It is being tested as fire tests and purifies gold—though your faith is far more precious than mere gold. So when your faith remains strong through many trials, it will bring you much praise and glory and honor on the day when Jesus Christ is revealed to the whole world.”

Remember, almost everyone in America thinks they are going to heaven. But, real faith in Christ is the only hope for eternal life, therefore God will allow almost anything so that you truly repent of your sin and are born again. “Because narrow is the gate and difficult is the way that leads to life, and there are few who find it.” Are you a narrow road follower of Jesus?

Those who have fake faith turn in bitterness from God’s trials and blame and hate Him for their circumstances. Remember the men of faith though. When Abraham was ordered to kill his son on an altar he did not turn from God in bitterness, instead he trusted in God’s character and promises. When Noah was ordered to build a ship in the middle of the nowhere, he did not turn in bitterness and reject God while he was mocked and laughed at, instead he trusted that God would make sense later.

True faith will always be tested.

Is today the time for you to get answers? Is it time for you to trust God and gain His wisdom?

Proverbs 4:5-9 (NLT)
5  Get wisdom; develop good judgment. Don’t forget my words or turn away from them.
6  Don’t turn your back on wisdom, for she will protect you. Love her, and she will guard you.
7  Getting wisdom is the wisest thing you can do! And whatever else you do, develop good judgment.
8  If you prize wisdom, she will make you great. Embrace her, and she will honor you.
9  She will place a lovely wreath on your head; she will present you with a beautiful crown.”